Living up to God’s Expectations – Are you?

No matter where we go in this world, there are certain expectations we must live up to. In our homes, in our jobs, at school,…..We are held accountable for living up to the standards that have been set, and failure to do so often meets with consequences that we did not or were not prepared for. What do you expect out of your life each day? What do you expect out of your children each day?   What does God expects of me, you and everyone in general? Do you know? Do you acknowledge it?beautiful-scenes-28

The world that we live in each day has put extra stress on everyone, young and old, to be perfect and socially it expects so much. I am not perfect. I don’t want to be. I however want to be sure that I have a balance of being happy and yet successful in life, in my career and at home as a wife and mother. When it comes to my family they come first before anything. Our faith which I expect and want to be strong with understanding of what God has prepared for us and his knowing is something that at times is pushed to the back burner. We get caught up in the “heat of the moment” or the constant rush to each activity we have planned/scheduled, where our schedules press upon us and we forget to take the time to remember what God had planned, giving him praise for the days he has given us or has shown us to do in so many situations. Even forgetting in just the small moments to take a second and recognize that he has given you or others so much to be thankful for –who would of thought!

Hindsight is 20/20……what should of happened and what did are many times different in stressful situations. We are creatures of behavior. Why change something when before it used to work, or better yet in the home – I’m the parent why can’t the child make the change? Have you thought though that maybe as a parent your reasoning and your child’s is not in sync? Realistically they won’t be unless they are older. My two are young and taking the extra second to actually understand and listen can make a huge different in situations that can turn out being stressful for them. Children can have a hard time explaining what they need, want or would like when they are younger. Explaining their emotions tops it all. Talking through miscommunications or difference might be a good example to them. Learning to consider alternatives?   Knowing that not being “perfect” is ok? Knowing God has a plan for us all and he expects us to live through him, pray to him asking for help in times of need and giving him praise…..Sounds pretty easy right? But how come it becomes so hard for some……

Sometimes I think as adults we expect way too much out of our young children because of the pressures of the world pressed on us, the parents, by society. They are children, young, innocent little mini-me’s taking in each day. If we expect our children to act as we do – shouldn’t we give them great examples?!

Again, I stress I am not perfect. Nor do I want to be or want others to be either. I have my good days and I have my bad days, where both have been observed by my children. God help me on the bad days and I’m thankful that he helps me to be patient with them on the days that are good. Let’s face it There are days where I (you) come home stressed or tired from a long day at work and it follows me (you) home and lashes out in situations where a simple prayer, time of reflection and deep breath could have centered my (your) foundation for that moment to connect with my children without angst. All they expect is to be able to tell you about their day, what they need at the moment, etc. It’s hard for adults, and I speak from some of my own personal joys/frustrations. I’ve learned from these times that taking the time to be calm, talking through itleavesems where understanding as a parent and a child can really be for the best are expected for a happy home. My kids expect me to be there for them and I will always!

God made each and every one of us for a special reason. He has given us so much and expects little in return.   Your needs, the things you believe you want, and your expectations of what makes life meaningful can only be brought into harmony by deciding how you will live your life. Will you live by your expectations? Will you live by God’s expectations and serve Him? Will I live and show my children how to see and be with God every day, living out his expectations? Showing them by setting an example? Taking the time to explain so they can understand?

“God does not demand perfection in you. God is not expecting you to measure up. God never thought that you could live the Christian life, nor does he expect that you could actually meet his holy standards. If he thought that you could, he wouldn’t have come to earth to die for you. But he did.” – Anonymous

Summer Fun

Wow – its July 17th, almost 1 month till school starts! Time flies when your having fun right? This summer has been a fun one….one of great learning for our entire family. J has had the opportunity to be able to take part in some really neat summer classes that I’m very happy we took advantage of.

This summer J attending LLCC College for Kids here in Springfield. I was a little worried if he would like it however it was a hit! He got to do classes such as Dig it – jacksonllcc2arranged around fossils and dinosaurs which he loves!, to Experience Science class and Math in Cards Class…..I look forward to next years announcement of the classes available! Now on to soccer camp and basketball shooting camp before the big day of starting 1st grade!!

Camps, Camps and More Camps…..I’m glad we have these available to us in the summer and hope that many other parents use these opportunities to help keep their kids thinking throughout the summer. Are you looking for some insight on new activities to do with your little ones? Check out my Educational Ideas for the Boys pinterest board. Maybe just maybe you’ll find something of interest!

Happy Summer Fun Time!

J’s 6th Birthday Party

Have I mentioned I love parties and coming up with everything that goes with them? Since J was born I have always looked for a theme and centered the party around it; the cake/cupcakes, food/refreshments, games, you name it and I would try to make it work with the theme. His 1st & 2nd birthday was around Elmo since he loved Sesame Street. 3rd was Toy Story, 4th and 5th – Super Heroes. This year I wanted to make sure it was as special as the rest!

This year he asked for a Lego Chima party. At first when he told me I had no idea what Chima was….however in a few minutes J was able to bring mommy up to speed.J's 6th Bday Invite He shared books he liked to read from the library, videos and games on the Lego website. Why not right!?!

This year we decided to take his party outside of our home. Last year taught me a lesson on planning an outside party in early May – to not to, at least in Springfield, IL. The weather is unpredictable in May. We had planned for a bouncy house, face-painting, super hero cake pops and games galore, but it rained. All activities had to be brought into the house. The party was still a hit but not what mommy had expected.

This year’s party is at an indoor soccer location that has birthday parties all the time. It allows the kids to run around, play multiple different games with each other without the need of the “pre”-thought out games, etc.

Since “Lego Chima” as a theme is very limited for items to buy in the store – I took it upon myself to create our own cupcake toppers, chima themed of course, and also the treat thank you bags.

 

I’m sure that J will love it! Let’s hope that J’s 6th Birthday Party is hit!

What special events or gathers do you do? How do you make them special? Share your ideas! I would love to see what others do for their little ones and their family & friends.

Interested in seeing other party ideas? Check out my pinterest board for just that – My Party Ideas OR Birthday Party Ideas
Looking for a special invite -customized for your child – check out my Etsy shop or email me. I would be happy to work with you on a customized invite that captures everything you want and more for their birthday.

Happy Party Planning!

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My New Adventure, Etsy Here I come

So I have decided to take a small step into my own business and I say small because its starting with only one area – Invitation & Announcement creation. Wow right!? Some would ask me why – you already have so many irons in the fire and this would just add to it. As a mom, career women, wife, friend, aunt, school-helper – this list could go on….I have asked myself multiple times “why not?”. I have fallen in love with creating cards and invitation for my family and close friends. For some time now, instead of buying the store bought party invites or Christmas cards (which by the way can be nice) I always wanted to take a more personal approach and really develop something that displays more about us, what we are about, and what we love about life. I love using my creative mind and trying to find a way to take the party or purpose and relaying it into the piece. I’ve decided to start with putting my creations on to Etsy – a global marketplace for many items. Have you used this before? If not I urge you to check it out.

print samplesSo I might be crazy with adding something new to my bucket – however I’m excited and empowered! Why not do something each day where I can know that I can help put a smile on someone else face by creating and capturing something they love for a birthday party, for a baby’s first view on the world in a baby announcement or something as simple as celebrating the birth of our lord with a beautifully designed Christmas greeting. I take this step knowing it will be something new, something that could really take off and I am hopeful that I can exceed at this!

Are you interested in taking a step into the wild with me? Then check out my Etsy shop! I have some of my most recent items up for display and can’t wait to see what else I could help create for others.

Learn more about my Etsy shop –
K Fyans Design” is all about -Custom Invitations/Announcements; I absolutely LOVE and have a passion for creating unique personable invites and announcement cards. Each invitation or announcement you see in my shop is one that I have created specifically for customers, using the theme or ideas they were looking for! Shop ImageIf you don’t see something like what you’re looking for, I’ll make it! Message me and we can make your card come to life. Both physical or digital invitations can be purchased for any of the items listed in my shop. If you see an item that does not currently feature a physical listing, please don’t hesitate to message me! I’d be happy to make and send you actual invitations for your order.

 

 

To The Garden We Go…..

Its almost time….what time – Garden Time!
The boys and I are itching to get into the garden and outside as much as possible that waiting till the last spring frost has been taking forever. The garden has been prepared, thanks to my little bumpkins this past week. Since the farmers almanac for 2014 states the frost for Springfield, IL should be complete on Sunday, April 13th – It looks like soon we will be able to start planning and planting our garden together.

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I love the time with the boys when we get to pick and eat what we grown, even when most of it is not items they normally would eat every day.

What will you grow this summer? Will it be tomatoes, lettuce, peppers?  We shall see what works in ours.

For ideas – check out my pinterest board for gardening!

 

Happy Gardening To you and your family!

 

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To All My Friends without Children

I read a very telling blog/post the other day and I say telling because I too have wanted to always take the time to do just as Jason Good did in his “Day 166” blog post to all his friends without children. I feel there are two different types of people out in the world – those who have children and those who don’t. Neither is better than the other – Trust me. I love my children, love my family and love what we have created.

I som20140311-163334.jpgetimes wonder what life would be like at age 33 with no kids, but then I think about my boys, what I would be missing out on each and every day. They are my world….I live through them and love every moment of it. They show me how to enjoy just the small, tiny little things in life that we adults, 33 year olds, sometimes take for granted.

Don’t get me wrong, mommy likes her time to herself at times (when I get them, which tend to be very few with young ones, school meeting, work, etc) but I love my life and where I am today. Once you have a family of your own and a baby/child that loves you unconditionally you’ll know what I mean! There is a reason I am where I am and God has a plan for us all. So friends with and without kid – here is my letter to you through Jason’s words to understand I do still love you, I miss you and gosh darn it – I am here for you – tired and exhausted at times but still alive and ME.20140311-163342.jpg

Day 166: To all my friends without children.

I know our friendship has changed since I had a family. I never answer the phone; I don’t return texts as quickly; I almost never “hang out” anymore. That’s because my priorities have changed. I would have warned you, but I didn’t know it was going to be so severe. I still love you as much as I always have, but I’m really tired at night. I really want to see you, but can you please come to my place? I know it’s far, but I needed a house and yard or I was going to lose my mind. It might be hard to have a conversation because my kids will be angry that I’m not giving then all my attention. I wish I could just tell them to be quiet and go play, but that’s not really how it works.

I hang out more now with families who have kids the same age as mine. That’s because when they’re playing, the adults have a little time to talk. If there are no other kids around, I’m responsible for all the entertainment and it’s exhausting. People with kids understand that I might have to leave in the middle of their sentence to get a juice box. They understand because they did the same thing to me five minutes ago. It’s not that I like them more than you, it’s because they understand the situation and that makes everything easy. I need things to be easy a lot these days, especially when it comes to “entertaining.”

I know you want us to just get a babysitter and drive out to your place and drink wine until 1am. I want to do that too, but I can’t. Not for a few more years. My kids are too young and they still wake up at night for various reasons. I want to be there when that happens as much as possible. So for now, you kind of have to come to my house. Understand that when you do, most of the afternoon will be about the kids and not about us. I’ll have to put the hotdogs on the grill before the steaks because if I don’t, someone will freak out and throw themselves on the ground. You’ll also probably have to spend some time by yourself while I take one of my sons inside to talk to them, read them a book, or put on a TV show. To me, it’s all worth it for that 15 to 20 minutes I get to spend with you totally uninterrupted.

I remember when we used to spend hours talking, drinking and playing pool. We’ll do that again; just hang in there with me during these few years when I need to focus on raising my kids to be interesting and happy. I’m terrified I’m gonna screw it up. My life is like finals week in college, and I spent all semester smoking weed and listening to ZZ Top. I used to be a child-free person who had friends with kids. It’s weird, I get it. It’s also really fun to play with someone else’s kids, and almost all of you do that really well. I encourage you to do it more, even if it feels awkward sometimes. They might diss you, but don’t take it personally; humans aren’t born with manners. Have them run little errands for you. It’s great that they can go in the fridge and get you a beer. They like doing it, and it will make them think you’re cool. Trust me, there’s no better feeling.

I miss you all and want to see you just as much as I ever did. I also understand that I’m a bit of a pain in the ass to hang out with. I take full responsibility for that. I yawn a lot and don’t remember stuff. Let’s just acknowledge that I am a distracted Alzheimer’s patient and try to see each other more anyway.

-Jason Good